The situation:
Lately, I’ve had some really clear signs that a girl is into me, like super obvious ones. We’re talking about things like:
- Takes a selfie of herself to save on my phone
- Types in her last name
- In the middle of the conversation, she asked to double-check that she saved her number in my phone correctly
- She proactively asks where I live, and which specific streets (before I’ve even asked her where she lives)
- Gives me a solid, slow hug, and pauses her face close to mine. (I did not initiate the hug)
- She offers me a handshake and doesn’t let go of my hand for a lengthy time
I’ve been doing this whole dating thing for a few years, and I recently got back into it. Despite being a bit rusty, I’ve been getting good numbers from my approaches. These girls with all the clear signs, I was pretty confident I’d be going on dates with them. But guess what? None of them responded to my texts, and it’s frustrating.
I can think of a few reasons why this might be happening, but I’m not totally convinced of any of them. First, maybe they’re just busy, but during quarantine? I’m not so sure about that. Second, maybe they just wanted some attention, but these signs were coming from them, not me leading them on. Finally, it could be that I’m not closing strong enough, but I feel like my number request is pretty standard, and I keep the conversation going for a few more minutes before saying goodbye.
So, do any ideas or tips for this situation?
Here are some crucial pieces of advice about the situation above:
- If she’s into selfies, that’s a sign she’s interested in you. Playfully tease her about it, extend your conversation, and maybe suggest an Instagram date.
- Don’t read too much into her sharing her last name – some people just like to overshare. You can playfully tease her about it and then consider asking for an immediate in-person date.
- If she’s double-checking the number, treat it the same as oversharing. Playful teasing works here, too, and you can try for an in-person date.
- A solid, slow hug is a great moment to shift gears and propose an immediate in-person meet-up. If she agrees, you can gradually escalate from there.
- If she’s asking about your location, she might be gauging logistics. In return, gauge her availability and consider suggesting an instant date.
- When she offers a lingering handshake, use it as an opportunity to continue the interaction and possibly conduct a mini-escalation or a compliance test before suggesting an instant date or change of location.
Bonus tip for you guys:
When you’ve got some free time and the girl appears interested, let’s do something new: “What do you say we share a bottle of wine together?” MistaF has been using this approach, which seems quite effective. In today’s world, where lockdowns can complicate traditional dating, this idea removes the need for a bar setting and opens up possibilities for dates in a park, on a rooftop, on the street, or even at your place.
Moreover, you can try this way if you want:
They’re called super-sets. Incredibly good but flake. The bubble during the set was so good, that it popped shortly after. Supersets are good for SDLs but bad for number closing. Try running simpler sets with fewer emotions.