As for rejections, if they matter to you, understand that they’re entirely normal in both dating and life. As the saying goes, “To win, you gotta learn to lose.” Here’s my insight on handling rejection in the context of dating:
Once you’ve honed your understanding of human behavior in various situations, many “rejections” become recognizable as minor mistakes or setbacks, both within and outside of your control:
The First Way to Navigating Rejections in Dating – The Casual Walkaway: You approach a girl, and she doesn’t acknowledge your existence; she keeps walking.
Explanation: Her mind may be focused elsewhere, or she’s having a bad day. She might have already been approached frequently and is unresponsive. She quickly assesses your intentions and decides not to engage, a reflex I’ve observed even in unrelated situations.
The Second Way to Navigating Rejections in Dating – The Swift Exit: You approach, and she briefly stops to hear you out. However, you fumble the open with too many questions, stressing her out before she can respond.
Explanation: You had her attention but made mistakes. Learn from them for the next approach.
The Third Way to Navigating Rejections in Dating – The Conversation Dominator: You approach, she stops, you engage, but you dominate the conversation without allowing her to invest. No tension is created, and she either gives a flakey number, mentions a boyfriend, or flat-out declines.
Explanation: Lack of investment and tension. Pause more, tease a bit, and let her speak without interruption.
The Fourth Way to Navigating Rejections in Dating – The Boyfriend Curveball: You approach, chat, she invests, you tease, pause, and she breaks the silence by mentioning a boyfriend or husband when you try to close.
Possible explanation: She enjoyed the attention until reality hit. Increase tension and intent to snap her out of the fantasy.
The takeaway is that many so-called rejections aren’t genuine refusals. Some are influenced by your actions, others aren’t, and some are simply reflexive responses from the girl.
The key is recognizing what you can address or improve immediately and understanding what’s beyond your control. Once you grasp this, the term “rejection” loses its significance in the dating game.
P.S.: When a girl takes the time to write a lengthy explanation for not wanting to see you, she has put serious thought into it – a humorous way to highlight that not all rejections are impulsive. 😁