I was at a bar in work-related stuff. So, there was this girl and somewhy she was receptive when I asked her a normal question. Later on I met her outside on her smoking break and I’d start talking with her. One of the first things I asked her “How does she like to get opened?”. As soon as I let her know the scenario, she takes a spot more to the sidewalk, we do a little roleplay, I walk away maybe 20meters, then back and do a little “play open” …
We exchange numbers and we agree to meet up after (her) shift.
I’m excited, I’m feeling “it’s on”, I’m already horny. I have roughly an hour before I meet her on my own. I chill out, I take my meal, drink my water, buy my condoms. I tie my boots, I’m ready, it’s on.
The initial meet is OK, however, as we’re both outside, I’m unable to lead (I’m rusty / never been good at game in the first place). She chooses the next venue.
I joke a bit, but, overall, the dialogue is quite clumsy. She buys a drink, she goes talking w/ her friend (her flatmate) then leaves me for a bit, then comes back. We don’t do escalation at the venue. As we leave, her friend shows her “middle finger” but in a good mood.
Anyway. I haven’t yet escalated. I accompany the girl down to her bus stop. As I walk, I try holding hands w/ her, she’s receptive. We start talking a bit of better topics.
At the bus stop, I go for first real escalation, the kiss, my line is “we should kiss now, so it’s more romantic.” Again, she obliges and makes out w/ me. Her tongue in my mouth and vice-versa.
Then she tells me if I want to kiss her, I should just do it. However she also tells me we should not have sex today, but now it seems, it was probably just token resitance or her feeling obligated to tell that.
We make out for a bit, then her bus comes and she leaves. On leave, she momentarily comes back and kisses me again, before leaving. I have slight headache and I’ve not even had a makeout for a long while, so I take a taxi home and at first I’m like good moods, “first makeout in a while”, I jerk off a bit thinking about her and the possibility of sex with her and go to sleep.
I don’t hit her up on WhatsApp right after, because I think it would been better if she hit me up first. Instead I wait, she doesn’t hit me up either. On Tuesday I hit her up on some work stuff, she’s not very receptive. Now it’s late Thursday, we haven’t been on or arranged a date 2 yet. All seems lost.
Since Tuesday morning I have this idea that now seems super clear to me that after the first makeout I should just tried to accompany her to her place in her bus and just followed to her place and tried to have sex that way. If she rejected me, at least I’d have made a proper move and could lived at peace with myself.
You can clearly tell – as the guy himself stated – that this a rusty and beginner daygame. About the story, a more experienced shares his opinion in a harsh but useful way.
“Bro you were not leading at all. It looks like because you were afraid to lose her. You were just there hoping for her to make the move. That never happens.
I have never heard of a girl who is more ON/Yes girl then this one. I bet inside she was craving for you to lead and was praying that you lead and take her and fuck her hard. She must be deeply disappointed by all the signals she gave you and you missed out. Her friend showing middle finger most likely meant that her friend disagreed on it but she still goes against it and you still don’t fuck her or escalate. What could be a better sign than that….The main thing: DO NOT BE AFRAID TO LOSE HER. Try fuck it up”
