I had my first date with this woman on Sunday, right after a same-day lay. She had amazing energy and quite a sense of humor which made for a smooth conversation.
I found myself falling into the trap of intellectual conversation so I spiked it with a line I’d created, I said: “I’m going to need you to look away while I’m talking to you, your eyes are too distracting”.
I brought it back to this spike throughout the night by looking deeply into her eyes, interrupting myself or her, and saying: “Shit, stop looking at me!”.
She reacted very well to these spikes, saying: “You’re cute”. And getting very close to my eyes with her eyes to make me look at her.
Physical escalation was pretty standard and smooth with not much resistance from her. I did palm reading, and tattoos, played with her hair, and I incidental touched her shoulders and arms.
She would reciprocate these touches with her level of comfort rising as the date went on. I kissed her about 30 minutes into the date. She was quite verbal about her interest, saying things like “I liked that, that was smooth” or “I like how you kissed me there”. And those really helped increase my confidence throughout the date.
After about an hour, I invited her back to mine for a drink since she showed signs of openness. She was still unsure about the bounce so we went for a walk outside on the street where I kissed her some more and went in for the neck.
Then, she said “You’re making me want to come back with you” to which I responded casually, “Well you should at least come by to meet my dog”. When we got back to my place, I had her come out with me to walk my dog for a bit and after the walk, I went to the bathroom.
When I came out, she was sitting next to my bed playing with my dog instead of sitting on the couch in the living room. So, I knew that I took it as a green light from her.
I invited her to come cuddle on the bed with me while I turned on the show. It was the first episode of a series called Nathan For You. We cuddled for a bit watching the show. I leaned over every once in a while to smell her hair and bite her neck.
We made out, escalating toward sex but she had all the classic LMRs, such as “Oh I usually don’t do this”, “I’m not this kind of girl” or “Not on the first date”.
I just leaned over her and said “This is your domain, you’re in charge here. If you aren’t comfortable I won’t push it.”
I managed to get it as far as fingering her but I didn’t want to push it. However, I made a mistake here.
I said to her: “I don’t want to push it because I’m pretty sure you won’t text me back if I do”.
My mistake was that I got nervous about crossing the “Point of No Return” and accidentally showed her my code side.
So, I didn’t want to push it anymore after the fingering so we just cuddled until she left.