The Secret to Success in Dating Dynamics: A Guide to Attraction, Comfort, and Seduction

Life’s fundamental principles boil down to the simple idea of supply and demand. Picture Attraction, Comfort, and Seduction like three interconnected supply and demand graphs.

Imagine that, during your conversation or interaction, there’s a specific desire for each of these elements, and this desire evolves as the interaction unfolds. These elements are interdependent, meaning they influence each other. The demand for seduction only grows once you’ve reached a certain level of attraction and comfort without going overboard.

In my view, attraction and seduction go hand in hand. Often, the things you do to create attraction also contribute to seduction. That’s why I often blend seduction into the attraction phase, ensuring that I balance the supply with the demand. This approach can make things progress more smoothly in dating dynamics.

When it comes to progressing to a sexual level, it typically occurs when your seduction level reaches a certain point, as long as the demand for seduction is at that level or higher. Now, if you follow the “traditional model” of first building attraction, then comfort, and finally seduction, it naturally takes more time. Let’s say you reach the seduction phase around the 5-hour mark using this model, which means you’re at seduction level X. To have sex, you need to reach seduction level Y.

However, if you’ve been working on attraction and seduction simultaneously, by the 5-hour mark, you might already be at seduction level X + Z. This means you’ll require less seduction before sex becomes a possibility in dating dynamics.

Some of your actions will increase the demand, while others might decrease it. The best way to figure out which actions do what is through trial and error. It’s important to note that the increase in demand for seduction doesn’t happen steadily; it progresses in stages. To increase the demand, you need to consistently meet higher requirements.

It’s important to avoid focusing solely on attraction and comfort for an extended period and then expecting an instant transition to a sexual context in dating dynamics.

Mindlessly sticking to a fixed model can lead to failure. For example, if the demand for seduction suddenly spikes during the comfort phase, and you don’t act because you’re rigidly following the model, you might miss a “window of opportunity.” If you fail to respond, the demand for seduction drops, and you’ll have to put in extra effort to raise it again. Repeatedly failing to meet the demand can lead to being stuck in the friend zone in dating dynamics.

Your ultimate goal is to achieve the desired level of seduction without going overboard in the other two dimensions—Attraction and Comfort. Always remember that your ultimate objective is seduction, not just building attraction or comfort. Those are merely stepping stones. Overinvesting in either area makes you appear needy or low value, while underinvesting makes you seem unconfident and ineffective in dating dynamics.

It’s important to understand that the speed at which you reach the desired seduction level can vary between different individuals. The ideal approach to reaching it also differs from person to person, although the “general case” applies on average. Some individuals may require a significant amount of comfort before their demand for seduction increases, giving you a “window of opportunity.” These cases, however, are exceptions rather than the rule. There have been numerous instances where I knew a close was likely, but more comfort was needed. If you build comfort in the wrong areas, attraction can decrease, so you need to find the right balance in dating dynamics.

Throughout the process, you’re essentially juggling these three aspects while keeping your goal of increasing seduction in mind. You’ll naturally find yourself sometimes investing too much or too little in each aspect, and you’ll need to learn to recognize that and adjust the demand accordingly in dating dynamics.

The model is just one way to reach the desired “level Y of seduction.” With the right adjustments and calibration, you can eventually let go of the model entirely. However, you’ll always follow its core principles, even if not the exact step-by-step process in dating dynamics.

Bonus tip for you guys:

As a side note on creepiness. Creepiness depends on the context and in the process of seduction, creepiness happens when you massively oversupply in some area.

For example, going for the kiss is creepy if you’ve just said high because at that point the demand for seduction is very low and you are putting in a HUGE supply of it. If however your kiss comes when the demand is close to supply that it will provide, it’s not creepy anymore, but hot and confident.

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